Hello divine woman
One of the ways that will help us to step into our greatness is to increase our self-confidence. This can be a huge task for many of us who have suffered low confidence for many years. I think that one of the biggest contributing factors to allowing your self-confidence to be affected, is to worry so much about what other people, think and whether you are liked and accepted.
Perhaps you are the seasoned ‘people-pleaser’ who wants everyone to like, accept and even celebrate you and when you don’t feel a sense of belonging and acceptance you wonder what on earth is wrong with you and why are you not liked. Let me tell you straight out THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. If others don’t get you, accept or like you they are NOT YOUR PEOPLE.
Stop allowing your worth and self-confidence to be affected by people who you don’t even align with you in the first place. It’s a waste of energy and will prevent you from stepping into your amazingness because you are so concerned what other people think. You may even dilute your personality and stop sharing your talents to the world, not wanting to shine too brightly because it may make someone else uncomfortable. Does this sound familiar?
You don’t need to change to fit in, you just need to be yourself and the right people will align with you. No everyone has to like you and in actual fact popularity can be so over-rated as often the people that are very ‘popular’ are not completely authentic. They say things to please others and never ‘rock the boat’ so every-one feels great around them and they are well liked.
For me I would rather be totally authentic, completely comfortable with who I am and not have to modify my personality and my thoughts just so I can fit into some-one else’s box. I spent years overcoming my people-pleasing tendencies, so I get it if you are still doing this. It’s time for you to make a decision and step more fully into your courage and take the leap of faith to promise to yourself that you will just be beautifully, authentically yourself regardless of not always being popular! This will be one of the most freeing things you can do for yourself and it will be like releasing yourself from your ‘emotional prison’.
Each time you step into your courage and be totally authentic, it will get easier and easier as you change those old negative patters of people-pleasing to fit in. Each time you step into your courage, your self-confidence will increase as well and both courage and self-confidence work hand in hand together.
In addition to increase your self-confidence, I want you think about all your amazingness and what you have contributed to the world. Quite often people don’t even stop and think about this and don’t celebrate their successes enough so that they can feel that deep sense of pride.
Think about your compassion, kindness and all the gifts that you possess, including all the people’s lives that you have helped change, or even just brought a smile to someone’s face. I also want you to truly be proud of everything you have been through and the woman that you have become.
“everything you have been through has made you the woman you are today”.
Do not allow the past “lessons” to take away your self-confidence and it’s time to reconnect back to your POWER WITHIN. Leave any of the past disappointments behind you as the past is the past and you cannot change it. Although you can learn from your lessons and realise that each lesson has actually been a blessing as they have helped you create the woman that you are today: stronger, resilient, wiser and at times a warrior! Don’t allow the past to keep you imprisoned in low self-confidence. Do the work, do the healing and strive every-day towards stepping into your highest potential. You are far more powerful than you realise and all that you require is deep within your soul.
No-one is “better” than any-one else – most of us are just trying to do better than yesterday”!
Some self-confidence booster tips:
Write down a few things that you have done or experienced where you feel so very proud of yourself.
Often our confidence is affected when we take on too much of what others think or whether we are accepted. Keep liking & accepting yourself and you will attract like-minded people. Stop hanging out with people who do not celebrate who you are!
Stop the ‘comparison game and embrace ALL of who you are – this will also increase your confidence when you can stop this negative pattern. We all have our own unique energy, our individual lessons to learn and our own wonderful attributes and gifts. We all have a powerful light within our heart and soul and it’s time for you to connect to your light as that is your ‘super-power’ and shine your brighter out into the world.
Here’s to you increasing your self-confidence and stepping more into your absolute greatness.
Much love
Jo xxx